Re: [Fandfs] CW obituary

[amasten@notes.cc.sunysb.edu]

What Cara and I noticed is that we are
all, each one of us touched by Cynthia and her home, in that obituary.
 Thank you for including us all. April



From:      
 Honey Williams <honey@honeywilliams.com>
To:      
 fandfs@maborgias.com
Date:      
 02/09/2011 01:51 AM
Subject:    
   [Fandfs] CW
obituary
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   fandfs-bounces@maborgias.com

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Cynthia Criley Williams, “the Mother of all Mothers,”
died peacefully at home in Carmel Highlands on January 29th
at the age of 95.    Her memorial celebration will be held on
Easter Sunday, April 24, following the traditional egg hunt in her garden.


Cynthia was born in Monterey, in 1915.  Her parents,
painter Theodore Morrow Criley and Myrtle “Tootie” Criley, were members
of the early Carmel artists’ colony.  They built a house in Carmel
Highlands, on the southern boundary of Point Lobos, and the family moved
there when Cynthia was two. They traveled widely in Europe, spending a
year in France when she was six and again when she was thirteen, which
fostered in her an old-world sensibility. Back home, Cynthia attended Sunset
School, Monterey Union High School, and Scripps College, Claremont. 

In 1935 Cynthia married physician Russell Williams. They
moved to New York, where she attended Barnard College, and started a family.
 In 1940, back in the Highlands, they built a house on the family
property, designed by Cynthia’s architect brother Theodore.  Although
Russell’s medical training and military service took the growing family
at various times to Baltimore, Las Vegas, and Topeka, Carmel Highlands
was always home, and where they finished raising their five children. 

Cynthia’s father was from a hotel-keeping family, and
perhaps following this tradition Cynthia opened her home, welcoming neighborhood
children, family friends and friends of friends, temperamental artists,
struggling writers, serious scholars, lively fishermen, blossoming singer/song-writers,
crazy carpenters, earnest scientists, left-wing politicians, student activists,
weary world travelers, and wayward teenagers; people might come for the
weekend and stay for months.  She established an ever-evolving eclectic
community, rich with traditions and rituals that she devised.  Generations
of children learned the joys of camping from her, and lounged on her couch
reading comic books; no television allowed.  Her menagerie over time
included dogs, cats, horses, goats, chickens, ducks, geese, parrots, and
injured wildlife (including a seal).  The family was devastated by
the loss of son Richard (“Red”) Williams, who suffered from depression
and took his own life in 1961.  The marriage ended in 1963.  


In 1956 Cynthia had begun purchasing small rental houses
in Pacific Grove, and developed a career as a landlady.  Her reputation
for fairness and generosity spread, and her little houses were much in
demand; many of her tenants became part of her extended family community.
 

Like her Civil Libertarian brother Richard Criley, Cynthia
was a committed advocate for civil rights.  She was a true egalitarian
who treated everyone alike (except for pregnant women and parents of small
children, who got special dispensations).  Even in her 90s she attended
peace demonstrations on Highway One near her home.


Cynthia had a deep love of language and literature.  Her
love of learning was life-long; she began studying ancient Greek in her
80s.  Her open-mindedness, her generosity of spirit, and her passion
for thriftiness were legend.  Her mottos were “Waste not, want not”
and “It’s a great life if you don’t weaken.”  She loved her garden,
her view of Point Lobos, summer fog, and a good cup of tea. 

Marian “Bee” Chaffey, John Williams, Margaret “Honey”
Williams, and Molly Williams are her living children.  She leaves
four grandchildren: John Chaffey, Margaret Chaffey, Richard Russell Williams,
and Sarah Williams; four great-grandchildren; the vast extended family;
and her devoted dogs.  

In her last year Cynthia’s health declined.  Her
family and friends gratefully acknowledge her superb team of caregivers:
Henrietta “Cha Cha” Nuno, Eustacia Pedraza, and Anna Casteneda; and the
wonderful services of Hospice of the Central Coast.  Cynthia herself
requested that her friends honor her memory with donations to the Bookmobile
(The Monterey County Free Library System).    


Nothing we can say here can adequately express our gratitude
for her life.  



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