Cynthia Criley Williams, “the Mother of all
Mothers,” died peacefully at home in Carmel Highlands on January
29
th
at the age of 95. Her memorial
celebration will be held on Easter Sunday, April 24, following the
traditional egg hunt in her garden.
Cynthia was born in Monterey, in 1915. Her
parents, painter Theodore Morrow Criley and Myrtle “Tootie” Criley,
were members of the early Carmel artists’ colony. They built a
house in Carmel Highlands, on the southern boundary of Point Lobos,
and the family moved there when Cynthia was two. They traveled widely
in Europe, spending a year in France when she was six and again when
she was thirteen, which fostered in her an old-world sensibility. Back
home, Cynthia attended Sunset School, Monterey Union High School, and
Scripps College, Claremont.
In 1935 Cynthia married physician Russell
Williams. They moved to New York, where she attended Barnard College,
and started a family. In 1940, back in the Highlands, they built
a house on the family property, designed by Cynthia’s architect
brother Theodore. Although Russell’s medical training and
military service took the growing family at various times to
Baltimore, Las Vegas, and Topeka, Carmel Highlands was always home,
and where they finished raising their five
children.
Cynthia’s father was from a hotel-keeping family,
and perhaps following this tradition Cynthia opened her home,
welcoming neighborhood children, family friends and friends of
friends, temperamental artists, struggling writers, serious scholars,
lively fishermen, blossoming singer/song-writers, crazy carpenters,
earnest scientists, left-wing politicians, student activists, weary
world travelers, and wayward teenagers; people might come for the
weekend and stay for months. She established an ever-evolving
eclectic community, rich with traditions and rituals that she
devised. Generations of children learned the joys of camping
from her, and lounged on her couch reading comic books; no television
allowed. Her menagerie over time included dogs, cats, horses,
goats, chickens, ducks, geese, parrots, and injured wildlife
(including a seal). The family was devastated by the loss of son
Richard (“Red”) Williams, who suffered from depression and took his
own life in 1961. The marriage ended in 1963.
In 1956 Cynthia had begun purchasing small rental
houses in Pacific Grove, and developed a career as a landlady.
Her reputation for fairness and generosity spread, and her little
houses were much in demand; many of her tenants became part of her
extended family community.
Like her Civil Libertarian brother Richard
Criley, Cynthia was a committed advocate for civil rights. She
was a true egalitarian who treated everyone alike (except for pregnant
women and parents of small children, who got special
dispensations). Even in her 90s she attended peace
demonstrations on Highway One near her
home.
Cynthia had a deep love of language and
literature. Her love of learning was life-long; she began
studying ancient Greek in her 80s. Her open-mindedness, her
generosity of spirit, and her passion for thriftiness were
legend. Her mottos were “Waste not, want not” and “It’s a great
life if you don’t weaken.” She loved her garden, her view of
Point Lobos, summer fog, and a good cup of
tea.
Marian “Bee” Chaffey, John Williams, Margaret
“Honey” Williams, and Molly Williams are her living children.
She leaves four grandchildren: John Chaffey, Margaret Chaffey, Richard
Russell Williams, and Sarah Williams; four great-grandchildren; the
vast extended family; and her devoted
dogs.
In her last year Cynthia’s health declined.
Her family and friends gratefully acknowledge her superb team of
caregivers: Henrietta “Cha Cha” Nuno, Eustacia Pedraza, and Anna
Casteneda; and the wonderful services of Hospice of the Central
Coast. Cynthia herself requested that her friends honor her
memory with donations to the Bookmobile (The Monterey County Free
Library System).
Nothing we can say here can adequately express
our gratitude for her life.